Not necessarily. The main problem is that for most people flattery is
adverse to self-flattery.
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----- Original Message -----
>From: "Harvey Tobkes" <harveyT@prodigy.net>
To: "Roy Schestowitz" <sch@danielsorogon.com>
Sent: Saturday, July 26, 2003 5:35 PM
Subject: RE: Egocentricity
>
> My sentiments exactly, so eloquently expressed by you. “Yes. Flattery and
> respect are what the world needs.” But we are blinded because ego and
> self-interest block the light.
>
>
> -----Original Message-----
> From: Roy Schestowitz [mailto:sch@danielsorogon.com]
> Sent: Saturday, July 26, 2003 11:47 AM
> To: Colonel Harvey Tobkes
> Subject: Egocentricity
>
> Home <file://C:\Program%20Files\Commo>
>
> Egocentricity
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>
>
> For a long time I have held the view that everything people do is directly
> or indirectly aimed at self benefit. This has very few exceptions that
would
> require some further explanation.
>
> Let's begin by talking about charity. People are reluctant to give money
> without receiving some recognition, even if that recognition is telling a
> friend "Hey, I do donate $1000 to charity every year so don't tell me I'm
> selfish!". Some enjoy the feeling of self pride, derived from helping the
> 'less fortunate'. They might as well go about trying quite proactively to
> avoid the mentioning of a good deed or donation, but again, it's usually
> aimed at boosting self pride (for modesty).
>
> What are the exceptions? Well, family is often seen as a metaphysical
> attribute of a person and one knows about the expectation to respect
> 'mother, father and siblings'. This has a lot to do with common manners,
> values and ethics (even religion). Close friends can sometimes fall into
the
> same category as family.
>
> Does that mean that existence in a dog-eat-dog fashion is inevitable? No.
> Regards for other people's feelings, common courtesy and manners are the
> adhesive of society and as long everyone's ego is satisfied, society will
> remain stable.
>
> The question then becomes: is there a magic way of boosting everyone's
ego?
> Yes. Flattery and respect are what the world needs.
>
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