<thad01@xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx> wrote in message
In comp.os.linux.advocacy flatfish+++ <flatfish@xxxxxxxxxxxxx> wrote:
Now don't try and absorb this all in one 24 hour Jolt/Pizza induced
and don't be discouraged if you don't get a women the first few times you
apply these techniques.
It's going to take years to turn you geeks into gentlemen.
To paraphrase my girlfriend: 'Most guys out there are either jerks
or losers, so if you can make even half an attempt to clean yourself
up and act like a decent human being, you will land yourself a
woman eventually. It really does not take much to set yourself
out in front of the pack.' Of course that is usually followed with
some mumbled comment about still waiting for my half attempt. :-/
Your girlfriend seems to be unaware of the fact that the vast majority
of guys who are involuntarily single are actually trying very hard to land
themselves a woman.
It takes a lot of courage, for example, for a shy guy to approach a
woman and hit on her. The first rejection can be pretty nerve-wrecking. A
second and third rejection (probably in a row) is a very strong
discouragement from ever trying again. The conventional advice is to keep
trying, as it hurts less after the 50th, 100th or 1000th rejection. Plus the
traditional gender roles in western countries are set up such that it's the
guy who's supposed to ask the girl out. Part of the population still follows
these traditional roles, while others follow the more modern "People should
ask each other out", but very few are of the avant-guarde "Girls should ask
And then there are those girls who intentionally play "hard to get"
(perhaps some guys do it too). Not all girls do this, of course, but the few
that do it make the whole thing much more difficult and unpleasant for
everyone else, as signals get mixed and misunderstandings occur.
Lucky for me, I've gotten out of this game and have a girlfriend now.